Self-Esteem Counseling in Chicago, IL

You feel like you will never be good enough.

You try so hard to make everyone else happy and if you're honest they're your kryptonite.  You just want to be understood and for people to love you for you. But this love feels conditional. You secretly wonder if other people like you or just what you can do for them. If you’re being honest you feel so weak and hate that you are affected by the thought of people judging you, criticizing you, or downright leaving.

In an effort to make them stay you try to please everyone in your life but you’re pissed off because what you want seems not to matter and you always get the short end of the stick. To make matters worse, the voice in your head constantly tells you you're not enough, you never will be enough, and that you are weak and spineless. Can't ever get a break from your own mind. 

You feel like there isn't any hope for you and you have to hold everything together and deal with this all alone.

Because everyone knows your family and friends will judge you. So you have to carry this burden alone. This is all just too stressful for you, you can’t deal so you have that TALL glass of wine and numb out in front of the tv.

The judgment, responsibility, and people can wait until later. But you have things you want to do, goals you want to accomplish but you wonder how that will ever happen with everyone who depends on you and that nag you have in your head. You wonder when will it be your turn? When you will be happy? You just want to be free, have peace, and do the things you want to do. 

Hey, I’m Tiffany, a licensed therapist who helps people-pleasing women finally make their needs a priority and get what they want from life and their relationships.

Together we work to stop tying your worth to your relationships and what you offer to one that's internal and based ENTIRELY on you and who you are as a person.

With therapy, I help you get what you want and need from relationships by helping you create a foundation of standards, boundaries, and limits and supporting you in creating healthy habits of self-compassion so you can have the peace you long for.

I support you in breaking your habit of avoidance by supporting you in stepping out of your comfort zone, speaking up, and handling confrontation in spite of fear. Together we set goals and I support you in reaching your goals for your confidence and life. Which helps you feel better about yourself and creates a foundation and habits to continuously build confidence. 

I’m a gentle pusher and we will move at your pace and timing however I will challenge you, and your beliefs and call out the things that don’t sound like they’re working for you and what you want. My focus 100% of the time will be on YOU and helping you get what you want and need.

The challenge doesn't stop in session. I will challenge you to take things a step further by practicing what we’ve learned in session and doing all the scary things that you’ve been avoiding. But don't worry we will have fun while doing it, and I am here with you, nudging you, cheering you on, and holding your hand when needed. Think of me as your non-stuffy therapist friend. 

Therapy is right for you if this has taken over your life so much that you’re constantly anxious, being around others makes you anxious or you’re so low that you’ve been avoiding some major things like work and basic self care. 

Now is your turn. To have peace, to have freedom, to live this life and be you fully in it. To have love and relationships without conditions. And most of all to be a friend to yourself, take charge of your self-care, your needs, and the things you want to achieve in this lifetime without worry.

Let's begin this new journey and move from just existing, holding back, and shrinking to make everyone else happy to finally being enough as you are. Click here to schedule your free 15-minute phone consultation for self esteem counseling in Chicago to begin your plan. My other specialties include confidence coaching.